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A breakfast that lingers

As Mother’s Day morning drew near, I dreamed I stood over the stove in my childhood kitchen, frying pan in hand, setting it on the glowing red burner. Bacon sizzled, filling the air with its familiar aroma, while eggs waited in a bowl for a cheese omelet. Slices of Spam—a lunch or dinner staple from my youth—sat ready, perhaps a quirky twist of memory blending meals across time. I rarely eat breakfast, usually skipping it, but in my dream, I was stacking tasks like a seasoned cook: frying bacon, prepping Spam, whisking eggs. My mother sat in her favorite chair by the kitchen table, watching me work, our conversation as warm as the stove. I didn’t see biscuits, but I imagined them baking just inside the brown oven door below.

That vivid dream stirred memories of Saturday mornings long ago, when the smell of bacon frying would coax me from sleep. Our small kitchen buzzed with activity as my parents worked side by side. Dad, the omelet master, grated cheese and cracked eggs, while Mom patted out fresh biscuits, her hands dusted with flour. Bacon and sausage crackled in the skillet, and the oven warmed with the promise of golden biscuits. That cramped space never bothered them—they seemed to cherish it, perhaps recalling leaner times with even less.

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When the feast was ready, the table groaned under plates of cheese omelets, crispy bacon, sausage, and steaming biscuits nestled in a bread basket. My brother and I, still in pajamas and robes, stumbled in, bleary-eyed but eager. We’d bow our heads to thank the Lord, then serving plates would fly as the food disappeared. Homemade apple butter, a sweet Southern staple, was slathered generously on those biscuits. As we ate, we talked—about the day ahead, weekend plans, or some milestone from the week. Those breakfasts were more than meals; they were where love and laughter solidified our family’s bond.

Why, in my dream, was I the one cooking, Spam sneaking into the breakfast lineup? Perhaps I was stepping into my parents’ roles, honoring the care they poured into every dish. My mother’s been gone 19 years, but in that dream, we shared a moment across the veil, her presence as real as the sizzle in the pan. When I woke, I got up, fried some bacon, and made a sandwich—a simple act I hadn’t done in years, but one that felt like a quiet tribute.

As this next Saturday rolls around, gather your family for a meal or a memory, whether it’s bacon and biscuits or even Spam. Those moments, steeped in love, might linger in your heart long beyond the years.

Why Do Our Dreams Return Us to Familiar Places?

Why do our dreams so often transport us to familiar settings—our childhood homes, old schoolyards, or long-forgotten rooms? For me, these recurring landscapes are no coincidence. I believe our minds seek comfort in the known, anchoring us in spaces where we once felt safe to help us rest, reflect, or even receive deeper insights. My dreams, in particular, consistently return me to my childhood home, a place of warmth and security that continues to shape my sleep and my soul.

In these dreams, I’m back in that modest house, creaky wooden floorboards underfoot, the faint scent of my mother’s L’Origan perfume lingering in the air. The faded diamond-patterned wallpaper in the hall is just as I remember, though the scenes often defy time. I might be my current age, chatting with my parents about challenges they never witnessed, or joined by an old friend I’ve lost touch with, as I was just last night. Nothing extraordinary happens—just a visit, a conversation—but I awaken wondering what it meant. Was that dream a quiet reassurance that my friend, wherever they are, is okay? These familiar surroundings feel like a canvas where my mind paints comfort and connection, even when reality offers none.

This sense of comfort leads me to reflect on why my mind chooses this setting. I’ve read that our brains often choose familiar settings in dreams to process emotions in a safe, recognizable context—a theory that feels true to my experience. My childhood home isn’t just a backdrop; it’s a sanctuary where I feel grounded, whether I’m reliving memories or imagining new moments. It’s not my favorite vacation spot or a fantastical realm—it’s the place where I felt loved, allowing me to rest deeply or confront life’s uncertainties with clarity.

In my youth, dreams of home felt like more than nostalgia. As I pursued a career in entertainment, I believed God used these familiar rooms to offer guidance, showing me paths I might have avoided—opportunities my fears could have blocked or people I wouldn’t have met. These dreams were guideposts, blending divine insight with the study and practice of my waking life. Another dream left me awestruck: I saw a portly, gray-haired black woman, unknown to me, tenderly caring for a young boy. She addressed me by name, offering gentle advice with a warm smile, as if I were one of her charges. A man’s voice called her Grace. When I shared this with my mother, she was stunned. Grace, who died before I was born, had generously given her time caring for my older brother when my mother was a struggling single working mom, long before my time. I’d never heard her name, yet there she was, a guardian angel in my dream. My mother’s eyes lit up, and she said, “You have a wonderful guardian angel watching over you.” Though I didn’t always follow such guidance perfectly, these dreams shaped my path, placing me where I could grow and serve.

But dreams of familiar places aren’t always serene. Nightmares from my youth—tossing and turning in my twin maple bed—still linger in my psyche, like one so vivid I woke bouncing in fear, running to my parents for comfort in the wee hours. These moments, though rare, show that even in distress, our minds cling to familiar settings to confront hidden fears or traumas. For me, such nightmares are exceptions, and my long-ago home remains a refuge where sleep brings solace.

So why do our dreams return us to familiar places? I believe they are the heart’s safe harbor, where we rest, reflect, and sometimes glimpse deeper truths. Whether it’s my childhood home, your old classroom, or another’s quiet street, these settings remind us that even in sleep, we seek comfort to face life’s uncertainties. For me, these dreams are a gift—a blend of memory, faith, and hope that guides me, one familiar place at a time.

Dreams that inspire

I ran down the dark corridor. My heart was beating fast as I heard footsteps rushing towards me from behind. I opened the door at the end as it swung inward and next, I found myself dangling from the doorknob over a dark pit that seemed bottomless.


I held on for dear life trying to pull myself back up into the hall.


Which was worse? Falling into the dark unknown or making it back to the solid hallway where I was being chased by who knows what.


Thankfully, I didn’t have to find out as my alarm went off bringing me safely back into my bedroom.
Dreaming can sometimes bring us to smiles, sometimes to fear, sometimes in between.


I have spent time in many dreams sitting and talking with loved ones who were long passed. Those moments are usually cherished opportunities to spend a few more minutes with a dear friend or relative.


Other dreams have found me in places I have never been experiencing new adventures with people I have never known or with faces I recognize. Those are usually quite comforting as well.


As a youth I saw dreams as roadmaps to where God wanted to take me, and often he placed the footsteps out ahead of me as if they were flashing in neon.


Those took me places I could have never dreamed of in my waking hours.


Are dreams simply our imagination running wild?


Are messages from our past, our future, or from our loved ones gone on hidden within?


I know that people in various forms of study have spent endless hours trying to answer those types of questions. From the Biblical stories of Joseph interpreting the dreams of pharaoh, to whatever scenario one might surmise from their own research, dreams play a vital part in our lives.


They give us relief, sometimes hope, and sometimes fear. No matter what they provide, if you are blessed with a good dream experience, be thankful for what has passed. Perhaps it is a God wink to uplift.


If it’s not such a good experience, maybe that is an inducement to examine your life and find where you might improve to clear your heart and mind, so next time it can be.


For me, despite a few frightening ones along the way, the good ones outweigh those, and from time to time, I do believe God’s drops in a bit of guidance here and there to make my life better, if I only recall it.
So, get a good night’s rest…

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I had stretched out in the back of my white Ford station wagon near the shore and the sound lulled me quickly to sleep.

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What’s in a dream?

I am walking across what seems to be an endless stretch of desert, with each step I hear my feet sink further and further into the sand. Each step is harder to make. The heat is unbearable as I stop and wipe my brow and replace my hat as I look up at a cloudless sky.

I am walking towards a mountain range. I don’t know where I am headed but I know the journey is one of life and death. If I don’t make it to where I am going I will simply fade into the sand that envelopes my feet never to be seen again.

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