Who deserves our love?
Through my life, I’ve experienced familial love from parents, siblings, grandparents, uncles, aunts, and cousins. Its depth varies by person, but for me, Mom and Dad shine brightest—their love steady and enduring. People say parental love is unmatched, the kind that would sacrifice anything to save you.
Grandparents often come next, their affection a gentle extension of that instinct. Many note it’s easier to love grandchildren; they’re spared the burden of discipline needed to shape responsible adults. For those of us blessed with these bonds, we return that love naturally, striving to ensure our parents and grandparents feel loved and cared for as they age.
Romantic love, though, has been elusive—a chase where I rarely convinced my heart’s choice to feel the same, even as others tried to win me over. I spent years pursuing those who inspired me to fall. As a teen, I’d craft special gifts to show my feelings—like restoring an old cedar keepsake box, carving her favorite flower into it. The effort fell flat, teaching me over time that such gestures were often futile. I fell for those I couldn’t sway, and though some saw me as their match, I proved hard to convince. The few times I shared a path with a lady, she moved on, leaving “elusive” as the constant refrain of my romantic story.
Yet where romance faltered, friendship flourished. When I broke a bone, friends brought meals and drove me to rehab; when funds dried up, a quiet gift arrived. If something needed fixing, someone stepped in—sometimes for a song, often for free. This Christian brotherly love has sustained me through life’s highs and lows. God sent friends to uplift me daily—best companions in personal moments, public service, ministry, acting, music, and writing. Some have passed, but their love still echoes; others remain, brightening my world with their presence.
Beyond that, I see a love for humanity—acts of kindness with no strings attached. Ever helped a stranger gather spilled groceries or rallied neighbors against a wildfire until firemen arrived? We offer these blessings not for reward, but in hope they’ll spark a chain of good, making our world better.
Above all, God’s love for me, and mine for Him, gives it meaning. “That he who loveth God love his brother also,” says 1 John 4:21. So, to whom do we owe love? Everyone who crosses our path. It’s not about degrees—it’s about doing it fully, every day. If I’ve learned anything, it’s that love—given freely, without measure—can ripple out and change the world. Are you changing the world?